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Help if you are being bullied.
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  8 Basic suggestions - nobody should be bullied!

      1. Keep a diary or record of what is happening, when and who was there – were there any witnesses?
      2. Keep any evidence – take a photo if your things are damaged or you have an injury – keep doctor’s letters if you have to visit a doctor about an injury.
      3. Tell someone at home or at school
      4. If you have been physically assaulted this may be a matter for the police – talk to your local community safety officer
      5. If you have had some extremely unpleasant or dangerous experience online you can use the CEOP button below. 
        Do not reply to the nasty or cruel message, but don't delete it - this is evidence.
        Keep the evidence by saving it or taking a screen grab. CEOP is for reporting severe abuse, or child exploitation, they do not usually deal with bullying.
      6. Your phone provider might be able to trace callers who leave abusive messages. Block the sender, save and report it.
      7. Keep out of the way of the bully and try to move around with friends looking confident
      8. There are helplines listed below.

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Advice   Cyberbullying Helplines 
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Try not to let bullies achieve what they want             

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Bullies want to humiliate their victim and get everyone to admire their power. Sometimes it can help if you don't give them  what they want. 

You might be able to jokingly pretend to laugh it off or try one of these ideas...
  • Agree: 'Yeah, that 's how I am. It's good we're all different.
  • Practice some clever responses when you are at home  and use them. Calmly but firmly say you find what they said insulting or disrespectful.
  • You may be scared but try not to show it. Then get help as soon as you can.
  • Try and make friends with other people, it helps to go around with others.
  • Don't put yourself down too often, even in jokes. Humour helps but not always against you.
  • Walk tall and look out at the world confidently even if you don't feel this way

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Staying Safe Online
 

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You are safer online if you keep your addresses, passwords and mobile number private. Think about this in chatrooms and on IM. Don't share your location either.

Sometimes cyberbullying is carried on from bullying in school. Report it and get it stopped.

If you are cyberbullied, don't reply or delete, but save the evidence and get help from an  adult or one of the services listed here. You can block the sender.

Think before accepting messages or files from other phones.

Think before you forward a message that is cruel about someone - could you be bullying someone else?

If you post photos of yourself online, would you be happy for your mum to see these? They might be around on the internet for years. Don't give other people any ammunition they could use

Find out the serial number of your phone - just dial *#06# and keep the 15 digit number safe. If your phone is lost or stolen you can get it blocked by phoning 08701 123 123. This will stop people using it and pretending to be you.

Log out of sites like Facebook so that nobody else can simply pick up your phone and go onto your Facebook page and alter your status or post messages  pretending to be you.

Even trusting relationships can break up and personal pictures become public. If an intimate or nude picture of you has got out there and you want help contact ChildLine they have a new service to help you. (see below). 

You can find more information on how to stay safe online at www.thinkuknow.co.uk

Choose your age group from this list:

If you have special educational needs and would like advice on staying safe online:
click here for advice from ChildLine
   

                        

Or these sections could be what you need -                                                        

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Safety tips on the internet  
Safety tips on Twitter
 
Safety tips on Instant Messenger 
Safety tips on Social networking sites 
Safety tips on Mobiles 
Do you want to block someone on Twitter? 

Snapchat is not really private! Get support here
Snapchat allows senders to set how many seconds the recipient may have to view a message or picture, but some people are working round this, saving the picture and re sending it causing many problems. 

Recent warnings:
We recommend you stay off tagged.com and  ask.fm as young people report major problems on both of these sites. If you use Ask.fm, did you know you can turn off the anonymous feature that lets people comment and send you messages anonymously? Some people are telling us that their personal photos are being taken off their SNS page and posted on other sites like Anonib, with very offensive remarks - are all your photos set to private? When did you last check?

Neknominate an online drinking game is proving dangerous and even leading to loss of life as young people are encouraged to binge drink to excess.

 

To report abuse to the Child Exploitation & Online Protection Centre
Please use this button 

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Contacting service providers to report abuse

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      Click on the 'Report Abuse' link below the photo of a user's profile or below any specific content.
      Or submit a  report at http://www.bebo.com/ConactUs.jsp

 

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 Download 
this essential guide and checklist by Facebook



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 Go to the direct link at the bottom of profile pages or click 'Report Abuse' button on Group pages 


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       MSN Messenger
      Click the Help tab and choose the 'Report Abuse' option or go to
      https://support.live.com/eform.aspx?productKey=wimessengerabuse&ct=eformts
  
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      Click the Help tab and choose the 'Report Abuse' option or go to abuse.yahoo.com.


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 Internet Watch Foundation  
     If you have stumbled across material that has obscene content involving children
    (hosted anywhere in the world), adult obscene content (hosted in UK) or some other type of
    image such as computer generated (hosted in the UK) report it to the IWF.

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        CYBERMENTORS - Advice from Cybermentors
 
 

.       Ask.fm is a social networking site where people ask each other questions, often anonymnously. There is                     a way to switch off anonymity. Safety advice

jpg    DISNEY CLUB PENGUIN is a virtual world and online game popular among ages 7-11. Safety tips

   FLICKR is a photo and video sharing platform that is owned by Yahoo. Safety features

      GOOGLE+ is a social network linked with other services provided by Google. Safety

       MOSHI MONSTERS a social game aimed at 6-12 year olds. Players can choose, customise and                        nurture a pet monster. Complaints have been that children with disfigurements or abnormalities                    are called Monster names or bullied due to their appearance. Safety tools

    MOVIE STAR PLANET an online game with a SNS aspect, popular with 8-13 year olds.Players                        can customise a movie star character and explore a virtual workd. Children can create                                  animated films, design artbooks; play games online or use chat rooms. Safety features

         TUMBLR a blogging and SNS owned by Yahoo  Safety features

     TWITTER is used for microblogging 'tweets' of 140 characters that can include images or videos.                    it is possible to tweet someone directly too. Safety features

  YOUTUBE the msot popualr video sharing site it is owned by Google.                                                                 About Safety Mode and features

 


Numbers to call if you want to report being bullied through your mobile
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    ncb@o2.com or 0870 521 4 000

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    or 0870 070 0191 if you pay monthly. 
    If you are a 'Pay as You Go' customer, use 0870 077 6655.

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    Call 333 from a 3 phone or 0870 733 0333


   
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  Call 450 from an Orange phone or 07973 100 450 for     
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or 07973 100 150 for
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    Call 150 on a T mobile phone, or 0845 412 5000 

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 Talk Talk 0203 441550 general contact number for support
 
 

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jpgChildLine
www.childline.org.uk
You can speak to someone about anything that is worrying you. 

If you are hearing impaired, try textphone 0800400222 in daytime hours.
Look here to find out all the many ways you can get in touch with ChildLine

Crimestoppers
0800555111If you think a crime has been committed


The Samaritans 
08457909090 (confidential, non-judgemental support 24 hrs a day)
If you are feeling desperate or depressed or your friend feels this way.

If u care, share
was founded in memory of Daniel O'Hare who took his own life at 19 without warning.
For care and advice for young people and their families contact Share@ifucareshare.co.uk 
Tel 0191 3887186 their message: 'There's always a way'

The Child Exploitation and Online Protection Centre
(CEOP)
www.ceop.police.uk or use the CEOP button on many websites to report unsuitable or threatening behaviour online.
This is not for personal arguments or dramas but for really serious situations.


Cybermentors is a project run by BeatBullying.
If you want to talk about a problem you've got with cyberbullying, just drop a CyberMentor a message (click on CyberMentors Online), or talk to them in the chat room.
You can keep all your chats private, but there are also counsellors available for anything really serious.

If your school has been involved in the CyberMentors training, then there will also be CyberMentors available to talk to you face-to-face if you'd prefer.
If you're still not sure, or want to find out more about CyberMentors, including how to get involved, simply send a message to zoe@beatbullying

EACH Educational action challenging homophobia,
provides a national helpline for young people experiencing homophobic bullying: Tel: 0808 1000 143.


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Other sources of advice for young people can be found at- 

www.there4me.com

www.worriedneed2talk.org.uk


A list of approved counsellors/psychotherapists can be found at

www.counselling-directory.org.uk

Talk CBT is a counselling service for all, but has a specialist suicide prevention programme for young people   http://www.talkcbt.co.uk/cognitive-behavioural-therapy. it is based in the North East  


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Visit our BIG pages for parents 

Mumsnet: Why not talk to other mums on mumsnet?

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National Youth Agency www.nya.org.uk

NSPCC
: Offers a wide range of advice and support including what to do when a child may disclose a further problem such as domestic violence or neglect. 

www.nspcc.org.uk. 

Red Balloon Learner Centre Group
offers support and education for the recovery of bullied children who are severely affected. 49 New Square, Cambridge CB1 1EZ Tel 01223 366052

Stonewall
: Information on tackling homophobic bullying
www.stonewall.org.uk.

Transforming Conflict
: For information on restorative practices and training
http://www.transformingconflict.org/.


Open College An interactive useful site full of clear messages, easy to read.
(http://www.opencolleges.edu.au/informed/cyber-safety/ 

 


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Anti-Bullying Alliance:
www.anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk
For a description of ways to enable participation for children and young people with special needs, click here

CEOP (The Child Exploitation Online Protection Centre):
Hosts the Young people’s online charter and is responsible for safety on the internet. There is advice for parents and carers and for young people
http://www.ceop.gov.uk.

Childnet:
For information and materials on a range of online safety aspects such as social networking, being a good digital citizen, and cyberbullying.
New in 2013 Childnet launched an interactive matrix, www.childnet.com/resources, where you can search for advice and support according to audience and topic.
http://www.digizen.org/cyberbullying. Childnet also offers activities, posters and materials on http://www.kidsmart.org.uk.

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Provides training to challenge homophobic bullying:
www.eachaction.org.uk. Runs a helpline 0808 1000 143

LEAP:Transforming Conflict
Offers training and workshops in confronting conflict and hosts the Academy for Youth and Conflict for formal training leading to qualifications for staff http://www.leaplinx.com/.

Mencap:
The Don’t Stick it, Stop It! campaign contains stickers and useful materials, such as line animations and video clips, which can be used for training/awareness purposes
www.mencap.org.uk/dontstickit.

National Youth Agency
www.nya.org.uk

NSPCC:
Offers a wide range of advice and support in this area, including what to do when a child may disclose a further problem such as domestic violence or neglect. Visit www.nspcc.org.uk.

Stonewall: 
Information on tackling homophobic bullying

www.stonewall.org.uk.

Professionals online safety helpline by UKCCIS   
08443814772

helpline@saferinternet.org

Transforming Conflict: For information on restorative practices and training
http://www.transformingconflict.org/.

Respectme Scotland for useful advice on managing bullying and cyberbullying
http://www.respectme.org.uk/Encouraging-Responsible-Use-of-Mobile-Technologies.html

Government of Wales Anti-Bullying Guidance, here 

 

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Is it a crime?

No matter how bad bullying can seem, many incidents of bullying are not seen as crimes, so they are not a matter for the police. The best people to deal with cases like these are parents, teachers and other responsibile adults like youthworkers and foster parents.

But some types of bullying are illegal and should be reported to the police.

This includes anything that involves:

Violence or assault

Theft

Harassment, intimidation or stalking over some time

Calling someone racist or homophobic names or insults

Inciting hatred

Sharing inappropriate photos of under age children

Sending abusive or threateneing messages over and over again. (One incident is not normally enough to get a conviction).audemars piguet replica, omega replica

Anything that is seen as a hate crime.

What next if you think it is a hate crime?

The Equality Act 2010 makes discrimination unlawful. 

Schools (not Independent Schools) are required by law to have a Behaviour Policy that includes how to deal with bullying or an Anti-Bullying Policy within it. BIG Award prefers to see a full Anti-Bullying Policy which is integrated with Acceptable Use of ICT. 

CYBERBULYING AND THE LAW
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Although the websites listed here are checked regularly, the constantly changing nature of the internet means that some sites may alter after we have viewed them. BIG is not responsible for, nor does it necessarily endorse, the content of these external websites.

 

 

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